this was just what I needed to hear today! I cried to my therapist for an hour about how I struggle to socialize and why making friends is so scary. but this had a lot of great advice in it and I especially resonated with the quotes.
This was a wonderful read, very insightful having both sides of the coin of having many friends and the potential loss of depth in relationships and the fear of not knowing anyone at a party. Loved this, thank you
Thank you for this, I thoroughly enjoyed it. I don't know anyone closely where I live currently, so this resonated a lot. I appreciate the directness of your introduction!
About to move to a new city and to make use of the opportunities that's going to offer. Reading this made me a little more optimistic.
It's interesting, because I definitely feel like New York has a very unique set of social scenes. On one hand, there are people who only hang out together to be seen together because they want the "cool urban New Yorker" status. They tend to be transplants who work in publishing, fashion, or music. Or, they're hipsters. (Sorry not sorry, it's the truth.)
On the other hand, most New Yorkers I know genuinely want to connect with other people because it's not an easy city to live in. They love the social aspect because for them, that IS New York. They tend to be the best friends you can get in the city.
The funny thing is, becoming very active with the second group often will get you invitations from the first. Go figure.
Loved this!! As someone who’s moved around loads I never understood why people say it’s hard to make new friends as an adult. I do have a lot of social anxiety but I try to push through it and just be open and friendly to people I’m interested in getting to know. More often than not, other people are in the same boat as you and excited to meet others and form bonds.
This is really reassuring as I’ve been thinking more about moving to London. Somewhere I’ve always dismissed as a rich person’s playground, but is actually a place I would love to get to know and inhabit for a while. The social aspect is what makes any city a wonderful or miserable place to be, it’s just much more intimidating in vastly populated cities. I think the potential for loneliness (and financial sacrifice) is the main thing holding me back, but this piece is really refreshing and it’s good to know that most people deal with it and work it out.
Such a great read, Kasra. Loved how you discussed the other side, having too many friends. And how getting bolder in one domain can lead to different insecurities.
this was just what I needed to hear today! I cried to my therapist for an hour about how I struggle to socialize and why making friends is so scary. but this had a lot of great advice in it and I especially resonated with the quotes.
I appreciate and like this SO much. A refreshing read
thank you Michelle!
This was a wonderful read, very insightful having both sides of the coin of having many friends and the potential loss of depth in relationships and the fear of not knowing anyone at a party. Loved this, thank you
thank you Tinaeshe!
As someone about to move and restart his social life (in New York no less!) this was a perfectly timed and very insightful read. Thank you!
I'm moving to a new city and living by myself for the first time. Perfectly timed!
hell yea! you got this
Thank you for this, I thoroughly enjoyed it. I don't know anyone closely where I live currently, so this resonated a lot. I appreciate the directness of your introduction!
About to move to a new city and to make use of the opportunities that's going to offer. Reading this made me a little more optimistic.
glad to hear it Jonas, wishing you the best of luck!
It's interesting, because I definitely feel like New York has a very unique set of social scenes. On one hand, there are people who only hang out together to be seen together because they want the "cool urban New Yorker" status. They tend to be transplants who work in publishing, fashion, or music. Or, they're hipsters. (Sorry not sorry, it's the truth.)
On the other hand, most New Yorkers I know genuinely want to connect with other people because it's not an easy city to live in. They love the social aspect because for them, that IS New York. They tend to be the best friends you can get in the city.
The funny thing is, becoming very active with the second group often will get you invitations from the first. Go figure.
haha that resonates, I’ve definitely run into both of those groups!
enjoyed this a ton! thank you
incredible piece Kasra! exactly what I needed to read at this point in my life
Usually mentioning ny in the first paragraph shys me away from social advice 😉
Loved this!! As someone who’s moved around loads I never understood why people say it’s hard to make new friends as an adult. I do have a lot of social anxiety but I try to push through it and just be open and friendly to people I’m interested in getting to know. More often than not, other people are in the same boat as you and excited to meet others and form bonds.
reading this helped me become more optimistic for my abikity to make friends this coming semester. Thank you :)
this was a great read! im going to implement some of your suggestions
This is really reassuring as I’ve been thinking more about moving to London. Somewhere I’ve always dismissed as a rich person’s playground, but is actually a place I would love to get to know and inhabit for a while. The social aspect is what makes any city a wonderful or miserable place to be, it’s just much more intimidating in vastly populated cities. I think the potential for loneliness (and financial sacrifice) is the main thing holding me back, but this piece is really refreshing and it’s good to know that most people deal with it and work it out.
Really great tips! I love the balance of showing the pros and cons of each scenario.
Such a great read, Kasra. Loved how you discussed the other side, having too many friends. And how getting bolder in one domain can lead to different insecurities.