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Alli's avatar

this was just what I needed to hear today! I cried to my therapist for an hour about how I struggle to socialize and why making friends is so scary. but this had a lot of great advice in it and I especially resonated with the quotes.

Michelle's avatar

I appreciate and like this SO much. A refreshing read

Kasra's avatar

thank you Michelle!

Tinaeshe Rudolph's avatar

This was a wonderful read, very insightful having both sides of the coin of having many friends and the potential loss of depth in relationships and the fear of not knowing anyone at a party. Loved this, thank you

Kasra's avatar

thank you Tinaeshe!

Aman's avatar

As someone about to move and restart his social life (in New York no less!) this was a perfectly timed and very insightful read. Thank you!

Jonas Hummler's avatar

Thank you for this, I thoroughly enjoyed it. I don't know anyone closely where I live currently, so this resonated a lot. I appreciate the directness of your introduction!

About to move to a new city and to make use of the opportunities that's going to offer. Reading this made me a little more optimistic.

Kasra's avatar

glad to hear it Jonas, wishing you the best of luck!

The Veil's avatar

enjoyed this a ton! thank you

beeawrites's avatar

incredible piece Kasra! exactly what I needed to read at this point in my life

Previous Leon Lost's avatar

Usually mentioning ny in the first paragraph shys me away from social advice 😉

Kamilah Khelili's avatar

Loved this!! As someone who’s moved around loads I never understood why people say it’s hard to make new friends as an adult. I do have a lot of social anxiety but I try to push through it and just be open and friendly to people I’m interested in getting to know. More often than not, other people are in the same boat as you and excited to meet others and form bonds.

SamBuel's avatar

reading this helped me become more optimistic for my abikity to make friends this coming semester. Thank you :)

Kyra Andrews's avatar

this was a great read! im going to implement some of your suggestions

Minnie's avatar

This is really reassuring as I’ve been thinking more about moving to London. Somewhere I’ve always dismissed as a rich person’s playground, but is actually a place I would love to get to know and inhabit for a while. The social aspect is what makes any city a wonderful or miserable place to be, it’s just much more intimidating in vastly populated cities. I think the potential for loneliness (and financial sacrifice) is the main thing holding me back, but this piece is really refreshing and it’s good to know that most people deal with it and work it out.

Leena S.'s avatar

Really great tips! I love the balance of showing the pros and cons of each scenario.

Zed's avatar

Such a great read, Kasra. Loved how you discussed the other side, having too many friends. And how getting bolder in one domain can lead to different insecurities.

Peter Davies's avatar

I cannot overstate how much I like this. Having gone through a similar revelation in my late 20s, I never had the push to share it with people and it makes me joyful that you do.

Noor's avatar

This was a beautiful read. Insightful and raw. Well done!