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"your desire for status is inversely correlated with the degree of unconditional love you receive in your day-to-day real life"- this is an important hypothesis. I agree with it based on my own experience. However, have you come across any research or in-depth writing on this? The reason I ask is because if this hypothesis is true- it presents an opportunity for solving the endless consumption/comparison which is the cause of a lot of evils in today's world

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good question! I don't know of research on it, but it's something I've gleaned from my own experiences and reading/hearing about the experiences of others, see e.g. this tweet as well: https://x.com/jessicamalonso/status/1570837731940642817 I agree that addressing this "scarcity of love / self-love" would solve a lot of our collective problems

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"If you want people’s respect, you have to have something real to offer them." - I love this, but I think we often extort this quote into comfortable synonyms with replacing people's respect with impressions/first-take/approval, etc. I think respect is hard to come by but to earn it efficiently, you must be consistent with offerings, and also not prioritize seeking respect in the first place.

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