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S. McCann's avatar

Kasra, I really resonate with what you shared here. In my early to middle 20s, I found myself ready to make those kinds of commitments to friends, and did not find that kind of commitment in response, even when I thought I had. Sadly, I think unmet hopes/expectations ended up souring my feelings about some of those friendships.

I have found less disappointment in focusing on creating a life I love, and I feel a little cynical scab that’s formed over the part of me that hoped for these kinds of friendships. I don’t like the scab, but I think it’s been wise to be a little more careful about giving my heart away. I’m not sure how to reconcile the two, but I’m still holding both.

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Cissy Hu's avatar

beautiful piece, Kasra – love your take on how you're practically thinking about extending the life of your long-term close friendships.

I've found rituals to be a meaningful glue to friendships as everyone starts to partner up – always having "something on the calendar" to look forward to. also, have experienced clearly mirroring my intention for a friendship & what I expect from it to be received really well in conversations that are hard to initiate, but make meaningful strides in reducing misalignment in friendship expectations

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