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Mar 19Liked by Kasra

"it’s sharing these things as they are happening, expressing your anger and anxiety and sadness while you still haven’t resolved them". - this is so beautiful and now that I reflect on this, it makes so much sense. And it's so heartwarming to see that text screenshot. So a friend like this is possible! Hmmm.

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Glad I discovered this. "Adronitis" is a word (albeit a made-up one by John Koenig in his book) I learned about a while back that he defines as "the frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone." I think part of the frustration we feel is due to what's described here - the knowledge that much of the richness of a relationship can only come with time, no matter how much we try to force closeness. Well said, and beautiful piece.

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great way to put it and thank you!

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😭😭😭😭😭

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Mar 19Liked by Kasra

This is so beautiful.

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This put to words what my clustered mind has been trying to verbalise to itself for ages.

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god damn this one hits. Love this piece

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Kasra this warmed my heart 😭

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really appreciate your support cissy!

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I've been ruminating on this exact topic, and I've always had a hard time of sharing something difficult in my life as it's happening, even to people I consider my closest friends. Yet, reading your post reminds me of how important is it to go *there* to know the right people in my life. Thank you for this. I'm feeling extra grateful for the ones who have stayed.

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glad to hear that :)

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Okay wait stop, are TEARS about to form in my eyes? Thanks for sharing this, Kasra!

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aw thanks for reading leslie!!

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HITS

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Beautiful piece

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Beautiful. I want to add that by showing up this way for others and allowing them to do the same, no matter what unfolds in the relationship, whether they leave you for a new city or a path that no longer twists with yours, you can smile knowing you were fully part of their life, and they yours. If even for a chapter.

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thanks dennis :) indeed, there is something special about it no matter how long it lasts

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❤️

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damn. Love this. I've only had 1 best friend. we met in class 4 and currently we're 22. He has moved out of the country for further studies and carrier but damn It still feels safe to have someone by your side.

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The best

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love this

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